Relationship Dialogue Questions

 

Our need for a loving connection with another person is not a character flaw or weakness. It is a primal desire like our need for food and shelter and one of the most powerful drives behind our behavior. Think about it for a moment. How many times have you felt an almost desperate need for your spouse to pay attention to you or respond to what may, on the surface, seem like a mundane request? Have you ever found yourselves going around and around in arguments about an issue that, when emotions have calmed, you both agree are silly yet in that particular moment neither of you could relinquish your position? Unfortunately, couples often overlook the emotional context of their conversations and miss the opportunity to strengthen the love between them. But by answering these questions about yourself and your spouse, you can begin to unravel the deeper meaning behind that fight about the laundry or begin to articulate the vague sense of disconnect that may be creeping into your relationship right now.

 

110 Relationship Dialogue Questions

 

  1. What can I do to make you feel more welcome in my life?

  2. What do you feel is the purpose of our relationship?

  3. How do you feel if I say no?

  4. Do you know you have a choice?

  5. What makes you feel connected to me?

  6. What don’t you want me to know?

  7. What’s the next part of the dream?

  8. What does your ideal relationship look like?

  9. What behaviour of mine pushes your buttons the most?

  10. What is the biggest lesson you have to learn from me?

  11. What action can we take to resolve our biggest challenge?

  12. What question don’t you want me to ask you?

  13. How can I support you?

  14. What’s the attraction between us?

  15. What would give you more peace of mind?

  16. What’s an assumption you are making about me?

  17. What is the gap between your ideal relationship and what we share?

  18. Am I meeting your needs?

  19. What are you most afraid of?

  20. When are you most happy?

  21. What does intimacy mean to you?

  22. Do we spend enough time together?

  23. What’s the level of our communication on a scale of 1 to 10?

  24. How can we improve our communication?

  25. Do you feel I pay enough attention to you?

  26. Do you feel I am nurturing enough?

  27. How do you like to receive love?

  28. What are you passionate about?What does passion mean to you?

  29. What does it mean to be vulnerable?

  30. What do you value most about our relationship?

  31. What do you value least about our relationship?

  32. What can I do to deepen our intimacy?

  33. Do you trust me?

  34. Do you feel I show enough appreciation?

  35. Are you abundant enough to share your heart?

  36. What’s the most important thing in our relationship?

  37. Is it easier to share your heart or your pocketbook?

  38. How do you feel when I need you?

  39. Is it OK to ask you for what I need?

  40. Is it safe enough to ask for what you need?

  41. What does it take for you to feel safe in the relationship?

  42. What destroys trust for you?

  43. What advice would you give a young couple entering a relationship?

  44. What would you say is the difference in our values?

  45. What do you stand for?

  46. What’s the opposite of that?

  47. How do you express anger?

  48. What’s the difference between love and romance?

  49. Do you feel I manipulate you?

  50. What behaviour do I use to get my way?

  51. Do you have a need to be right?

  52. Are you willing to compromise?

  53. How easy is it for you to let go?

  54. Do you resent anyone for anything, who and why?

  55. Are you willing to see another possibility?

  56. Do we laugh enough?

  57. What does it take to make you laugh?

  58. Tell me about your favourite place?

  59. What was your most uplifting experience?

  60. What was your most scary experience?

  61. What’s our most memorable experience together?

  62. What’s the most difficult thing we’ve had to face together?

  63. How could I have handled a situation differently?

  64. How can I give you wings?

  65. How do you want us to be together in public?

  66. Do you feel I treat you with respect?

  67. How do you show love?

  68. Do you feel I show up for you?

  69. How do I know when you feel disconnected from me?

  70. How’s our sex life?

  71. Do I touch you enough?

  72. Do we need more quality time?

  73. Do I acknowledge you enough?

  74. Do we share responsibilities enough?

  75. What’s your role in this relationship?

  76. What is my role in this Relationship?

  77. What makes you feel disconnected from me?

  78. Do you feel I am ignoring you?

  79. What needs to be said?

  80. What would make you feel safe?

  81. If you had another best friend, how would you spend your time with them?

  82. What parts of you do you hide from me?

  83. Do you see our relationship as ordinary?

  84. What’s going on for you right now?

  85. What needs to be resolved?

  86. What can I say to get your attention?

  87. What kind of memories do we want to create together?

  88. What do you expect from me that you could give yourself?

  89. How much space/time do we need apart?

  90. How do we know if our relationship is on track?

  91. What’s the biggest lesson I can learn from you?

  92. What about me have you accepted and no longer have a problem with?

  93. What behaviour of mine pushes your buttons?

  94. How do you express your feelings?

  95. How do you let go/release resentment?

  96. What happens if we’re upset with each other?

  97. How do you feel about public displays of affection?

  98. What is sacred to you?

  99. What could I do that would cause you to pull away from me?

  100. Is there something you need to forgive someone for?

  101. What are you tolerating?

  102. Are you withholding anything from me?

  103. What do you like most about me?

  104. What do you find challenging about me?

  105. Where do you want to be in five years from now?

  106. Tell me something I don’t know about you?

  107. What are you afraid of losing?

  108. What are you most afraid of?

  109. What don’t you want me to know?

  110. Is your level of self-care high enough for you to overflow and share of yourself?

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Bettina Hemmingsen