From a child’s perspective

 

When a child has to move it is often completely out of their control. The child may feel powerless, alone, fearful, angry and afraid to ask for help, or share their feelings, for fear of worrying the adults in their lives even more. If they see their parents crying, arguing, or simply stressing over the basic inconveniences associated with moving, they may interpret their parent’s behavior as being their fault.

 

The silent suffering

Transition always involves loss, no matter how good the next phase will be. Loss always engenders grief and the greater you have loved a situation or place or people, the greater the grief. The layers of loss run deep:

 

  • Friends, community, pets.

  • Family, toys, language.

  • Weather, food, culture.

  • Loss of identity.

  • Loss of a place of comfort, stability.

  • A safe and predictable world = Home.

 

Parents Support Program (PSP)

Powerless in the decision to relocate, their many losses are often not acknowledged even by their own parents, and the main problem is unspoken, unrecognized, shunted aside.The PSP focus on coping with changes. Children most of all need their parents to be the ones helping them make sense of and normalize their thoughts and feelings. The PSP is specifically developed to assist parents explore the resources and necessary skills that allow them to talk to their children about their feelings.

 

The benefits of PSP

When parents help their children learn the coping skills necessary to survive situations associated with pain and loss they develop a stronger resilience and a deeper sense of trust, belonging and connectedness.

 

Contact me for more information about the Parents Support Program.

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Bettina Hemmingsen